Cant take her side - The Bold and the Beautiful

Are we really doing this? If it’s not self-defense, I guess that Steffy is now to blame for Sheila trying to kill her?
If Finn wanted a relationship with his Mother Sheila that badly, then he had many opportunities to leave Steffy and go do that. Steffy actually gave in and tried at one point, but Sheila ruined that opportunity by trying to kill them, so Steffy was no longer obligated to give his Mother some slack. The loss of that chance is on Sheila, not Steffy. Sheila became a deal breaker so he would need to bond with mommy alone. If Finn had a hard time understanding why Steffy could never compromise regarding Sheila, he had the choice to leave her rather than vow to protect her.
Steffy gave him an out when she moved out. He should have taken it since he apparently can’t understand why Steffy would be so “unreasonable” towards the woman who terrorized her family for as long as she remembers.
Steffy was not smart to get in Sheila’s face, but if Sheila can not handle herself in society without getting dressed in black, lurking in the bushes, and going over to kill somebody after a confrontation, that proves that she should be locked up somewhere. The fact that Steffy knows Sheila is crazy and should be locked up is what makes what Steffy did, not the brightest thing, but that is not what caused Sheila to attack her. Sheila had it in her and it was only a matter of time before she snapped. Steffy just helped it boil over a lot sooner.
So I guess now, we are going with the equivalent of the “She was wearing skimpy clothes, so she deserved it argument?”
I can’t support that argument. Sheila is to blame for this. I can most certainly take Steffy’s actions as self-defense.
Regardless of what happened earlier, Sheila intentionally went into Steffy’s home uninvited and unbeknownst to her. She did not speak, came towards her ignoring Steffy’s pleas to stop, and then lunged at her with murderous intent in the dark, dressed in black, on a dark, windy night. Steffy reacted by defending herself in the best way that she could, with what she had available to her, in a fearful moment, reasonably thinking that her life was in imminent danger, which resulted in Sheila’s death. This sounds like self-defense to me. I’m not sure what’s missing from the qualification.
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